This past week Forbes came out with a list of the top 40 cities for singles, and New York came in at number eight. What?! I’m sorry but the only way NYC qualifies as a great city for the unattached, is if said single people want to remain single. As a moderately attractive, fun and active New Yorker I can honestly say this is one of the hardest cities in which to find love.
Apparently, Forbes used a specific methodology in order to rank American cities, which they describe as follows:
To determine which U.S. cities are most comfortable for soloists, we ranked the 40 largest urbanized areas in mainland America in seven different categories: number of singles, nightlife, culture, cost of living alone, job growth, online dating activity and coolness.
I can definitely see how NYC came out on top using these standards. We have a great nightlife, tons of culture, a definite coolness factor and admittedly almost everyone I know has tried online dating. Also it makes sense that we are not in the top 5 being that the cost of living here is steep and job growth is less than stellar. However, what kind of standards are these? It seems to me that a lot of online dating would mean that a great deal of people are having trouble finding that “special someone.” Additionally, it would probably have been beneficial had Forbes taken “pace of life” into account.
I think the major problem with NYC is that it tends to be very individualistic and fast paced. There is not a lot of time to loll around, meet people and engage in real conversation. Due to the high cost of living and the amount of high stress jobs found here, people are often ‘on the go,’ rushing from one event to another.
Yes there is a major night life and cultural scene to be found, but when was the last time you met someone you really wanted to date at a Broadway show or a rolicking night club? Sure, it happens, but in my experience these events are often fun and socially beneficial but rarely do I ever meet anyone worth re-connecting with at 1:00 am after downing a couple of beers.
In the end the Forbes list is somewhat useless. I am at a loss as to what to do with this information and who the target audience is. I hardly think that the majority of people will pick up and move their entire lives just to be in a better city for singles. Furthermore, if a city is a single mecca doesn’t that suggest that it’s also not a place where a lot of people are “settling down?”
I am constantly bemoaning my singlehood with friends and I must admit that it is nice to know that NYC welcomes and hosts various other singles like me. Now all I have to figure out is where all the good ones are hiding and how I snag one of them soon.
***to read the whole article featured in Forbes click here