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{October 8, 2008}   Innocence and Naivete are Alive and Well In Arkansas…

Last night while channel surfing, I happened upon TLC; the learning channel.  I am an occasional watcher of Jon and Kate plus Eight, (a lighthearted look at a family raising twins and sextuplets) and have an odd fascination with large and unique families.  I was in luck, because I unexpectedly stumbled upon the Duggar Family.

OMG! Within minutes I was hooked.  The Duggars are a family of 19: Mom, Dad and seventeen children (with number 18 on the way).  In case you hadn’t guessed it; they don’t believe in birth control. The family is very clearly Christian/conservative when it comes to most everything, and thus they live their lives as such. Last nights episode followed oldest son Josh (20) as he proposed to Anna.

The Duggars seem like lovely people, they are endearing and fun to watch, but who knew people still lived this way!  Josh flew out to Florida to propose to a girl he had met two years prior at a home schooling conference.  There had not been much of a ‘relationship’ since then (other than some contact between the families) but Josh felt “the lord was guiding him to choose Anna.” Anna accepted his proposal and the two celebrated with a hug.  All throughout the episode, various members of the Duggar family guided the viewers through the appropriate “courtship” rituals.

* Josh and Anna could hold hands, but nothing more

* They could not kiss until their wedding day

* They could not be alone together and had to have a chaperone with them wherever they went

I know right!? Who knew this kind of innocence still existed?  I cannot imagine not kissing or being left alone with my future husband until after we were married.  Not to mention deciding to marry someone I barely knew.  It was so odd to watch.  I felt like this family was from another era.  Josh and Anna were cute and cuddly, but I couldn’t help but think they appeared to be playing “house.” When Josh took her to the car lot he works at and remarked “this will be our life,” I didn’t know weather to laugh or cry.  It’s such a simple existence; dominated by puritan values.

I do not look down on the Duggar’s religious ideology.  It’s just so foreign to me.  I wonder how many people in this country grow up this way, entering into marriage without the slightest idea of what love is.  I am sure Josh and Anna will be very happy: they come from similar backgrounds and have identical values.  In today’s world that can be half the battle.  It’s just that they seemed to young, so innocent, so ill prepared for the adult world.

As the show came to an end, I found myself so engrossed in the daily rituals of the Duggar family that I immediately began to look forward to the next episode.  The Duggar’s are so much fun to watch, because they’re so weird.  Surprisingly, it is not their large family that astounds me but rather the way in which they live their lives.  Even the people who come into contact with them onscreen seem shocked by their interpretation of the world around them.  I feel for the Duggar’s.  I am sure their show will be successful, but unlike Jon and Kate plus Eight I doubt viewers will be able to empathize or see themselves in the family.  Instead, the Duggar’s are perceived much like animals in a zoo: odd, exotic and fun to oggle. On some level, that’s a little sad.

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nathalie says:

I think this is wonderful to see how family still has value and I do total understand why the Dugger son is not allow to be left alone with his girl friend it is bible principal that a man and a women is not to be alone untill they are maried so this way nothing can happend untill they are maried we or not perfect so they can have sex before mariage,The problem with the world today they dont value relasonship and mariage thats why there is so many divorce rate and single parents out there.If more people would do this and take Gods word more seriuse then there would be less problem in this world.
I AGREE 100 PERCENT ON THIS ….GOOD FOR YOU GUYS THERE IS STILL BELIEVERS OUT THERE.



jables08 says:

No where in scripture does it say that a man and a woman should not be alone together. No where. Is it a good way of maintaining purity? Sure, I guess, if the individuals involved are so weak that they will have sex with any man/woman they are left alone with. Do not take a good principle and put it on the same level of a Biblical command. That is what the Pharisees did and you can see how Christ rebuked them. In fact, Jesus said to not be like the hypocrites and Pharisees who do their religious principles to receive attention. To me, this is what the Duggars are doing. Our Christian life is not to be paraded in front of the nation on television. I don’t know many people how are actually viewing this program with an open mind. It’s either people that hate them or people that admire them. Either way, no one is effected/affected by the Duggars’ “religion” because they are so blinded by the actions of this family. The glory isn’t going to God, it is going to Jim-Bob and Michelle.
And Nathalie, there are many believers out there. However, they probably fail to meet the high expectations and legalistic demands that the Duggars and maybe you place on Christians. Re-read the Gospels and realize that though we are called to live a pure life and be different from the world, we have to understand that that goes beyond wearing long skirts, long hair, homeschooling, and saving yourself for your wedding day (all good principles but as I said earlier DO NOT MAKE THESE BIBLICAL COMMANDS.) Christianity is about loving the unlovely, forgiving the unforgiveable, giving of yourself, not being selfish, etc. I do believe that the Duggars practice these values however no one ever talks about them or points to them (even the supporters of the Duggars) because,as I said, they are distracted by the banging of cymbals and clanging of gongs (1 Cor. 13)



Jamie says:

This is sick! How can you support these freaks. I pray the mother reaches menopuase soon but I fear the father would continue his brood with a daughter. Sad how they have twisted the gospel into to justify their sick mental illness.



Kristin says:

I think the Duggar’s can do what they please even if some people find it creepy. There are a lot of things in the world that they probably find creepy but that doesn’t mean people aren’t going to continue to live their lives the way they want too. We all have the right to do what we want with our lives and criticize each other for it too!

Based on their experiences growing up, I’m sure that at east some of the Duggar kids will not have as many kids as their parents. Personally, I don’t think all those children will get the individual attention they deserve. Someone is going to feel jipped at some point. But what kid doesn’t! They’ll survive and will hopefully have happy memories. Or, at least they’ll always have someone to borrow $20 from when in need. As one of six kids this came in handy for me on many occassions!



susan says:

The family seems very nice but definitely living in their own reality. That’s fine as long as they don’t impose their beliefs on others. Added to the description of them as innocent and naive, I’d have to add uneducated. Josh Duggar’s father-in-law says Jesus did not turn water into wine–it was grape juice. I guess that justifies their Biblical” belief in no alcohol. Their lack of birth control is not Bible based. They are not having as many children as Jesus wanted them to have. They have put a spin on the Bible to match their beliefs.



susan says:

The family seems very nice but definitely living in their own reality. That’s fine as long as they don’t impose their beliefs on others. Added to the description of them as innocent and naive, I’d have to add uneducated. Josh Duggar’s father-in-law says Jesus did not turn water into wine–it was grape juice. I guess that justifies their Biblical belief in no alcohol. Their lack of birth control is not Bible based. They are not having as many children as Jesus wanted them to have. They have put a spin on the Bible to match their beliefs.



NurseM says:

I and a lot of other Christians find the Duggar family good TV viewing and inspirational. That doesn’t mean we all agree with everything they stand for but for the most part we do. They are raising a family of well trained, mannerly children who are growing up with a good work ethic and if you follow the story they are learning early to care for others. They are self supporting and independent and have never depended on others for their support. So far even TLC doesn’t seem to have been able to spoil them! I wish they would do more frequent episodes but then I would hate to see the family spoiled like Jon & Kates family have been. Those kids are growing up to think the world revolves around them as everywhere they go they get special treatment and lots of freebies. It is no longer so light hearted as Jon makes on show comments about being tired of the show and is seen about and about getting drunk with co-eds. Josh and Anna on the other hand are excited about their first pregnancy and supporting themselves with their own car dealership.



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